And one more thing, he has mood swings. His email said not a good idea to see me right now, I do not have anything to say.
When I replied he need not have anything to say, that I have no expectations of him, he then agreed to see me. His mood when we met was much better than what he showed in the email.
I still need input. All the MLC books are helpful but do not compare to the real-life experience of the people here.