I do think he is incredibly insecure, and is wanting my full attention.
This is a major thing that caused xH and I to fail. Work on this. Not saying he needs your full attention, obviously not. But he needs you to need/desire him. You can do it together. I think he'll need you to initiate the communication, but especially the validation!! The validation that he is loved, needed and *desired* (very important).
So sorry about S3, but at least you'll have meds to travel with. They (you and everyone!!) will be feeling better. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!
Hey Tal, just hoping things are well in the "Happiest Place on Earth". ((((HUGS)))))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Hello my friends... im back. Was supposed to fly in last night but got delayed so we arrived about an hour ago.
I won't go into everything in detail.. that would take too long.
First, I want to say that even though I am still very dissapointed in the way things went, im not giving up.
that said, things were rough the first 3 or 4 days. He's just a really harsh person, and I don't know what I'm going to do. He snaps at everything I do wrong and just doesn't relax. Everything is made into a big deal. But I didn't feed into it. I kept cool and just let him make a fool of himself.
Don't get me wrong, the trip was good. the kids had a ball. We didn't get to go out by ourselves at all, which I knew in the back of my mind would happen
We were just so tired from being at the parks all day, we were exhausted. S3 ended up getting sick from the chlorine in the water at blizzard beach.. that was not fun.
We had some nice moments, but all in all, it was a very hectic busy vacation.. im really tired.
Im not going to bore you all with details.. im just sad that it wasn't better than I had hoped..
I also came home to my dad having some health problems, he had a EKG which showed a man who actually had a heart attack. So right now, that is the only thing on my mind. He is very stubborn, and my mom was actually crying the day I was leaving because she needed me to lean on and how much she missed me but didn't want to ruin my vacation.
Soooo....anyways.. im so tired right now, i can't type anymore.
I hope everyone is doing ok. The next few days are going to be crazy for me, but im going to check up on everyone as soon as I can.
Love to all
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sorry to hear the vacation didn't go like you wanted. At least your little ones had a good time, right? That's the number one thing. But I know how it is to want more. No, need more. A big vacation like that is tiring enough as it is.
I just don't get your H. But if he's anything like I tend to be (if I'm being a dumb@ss) I am just too darn ignorant of how my gender-induced blindness makes me seem so callous. I used to do such stupid, stupid things that would send W right up the wall -- I'd be confused and sometimes annoyed by her odd reactions, but I never, ever meant to convey to her that I did not love her, let alone hated her, although she obviously took it that way. (In my "mad-at-the-world" phase she would always take it very personally, even when it was never directed at her; but that's her own hangup.) Let's just say I was a stupid human being -- and am now in recovery (I hope).
You, Tal, seem to have so much better introspection, and yet I see your H is still pressing the envelope. He has got to snap to and wake up.
