Sophie, Take each day as it comes. Try not to read too much into the interactions that you are having w/your h. They tend to bounce all over the place and who knows just where his head is at right now.
As for the gifts, be sure to thank him for doing the shopping and if you want both names on the tags, by all means do so. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.
As for the contact from the lawyer, let it go for now and just try to relax and enjoy the holiday season w/your family. I'm hoping that he will come to his senses and want to spend the holidays w/you and the children.
Remember, no relationship and/or separation/divorce talk for now. Let things be and just enjoy the time you can interact w/him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
