Damn - almost forgot. These are the two emails my mom sent him. Yeesh.
11/23:
____,
I just had to somehow communicate with you and let you know how shocked Dad and I were about all that has come about in the past week. We are saddened greatly. I am not as good as Nasmat or Dad in putting my thoughts into words but I will try because I think it is important you know how I feel. ____, I can't tell you how much my heart aches for you both but also particularly so for Nasmat who is hurting more each day. This has been very hard for me and it feels like I am losing a family member. ____, we have always loved you and have always had great respect for you. You have been like a son to me. My sister and mother are also very saddened by all this and they have been very upset. My mother particularly hurts and as Nasmat said to me the other day, she is particularly fond of you. So you see how you are loved by so many and that is why this is so hard. When there is so much love for both, that makes it particularly hard to bear. If the love wasn't there then it wouldn't hurt so much but when love is there, the hurt goes deep. I am particularly worried about Nasmat. As each day goes by I see her hurting more. She told me she talked to you this morning. ____, usually divorce is a last resort and before that conclusion is reached, couples will try everything possible to try to work things out. I just wish you both could have tried hard to work things out. You two have been through a lot in the past eleven years; you've weathered a lot and I think there were lots of good things in store for both of you in the future. You know, I told Nasmat yesterday that I always envisioned you both growing old together! I have been hoping and praying that somehow things would work out for the better. I will still hope and pray for that up until the very end. Despite all that has happened, I still love you and I will never forget you. Every time I look at Lola, I think of you because you are the one who rescued her! Speaking of Lola, I know she misses you particularly as nighttime draws near. She goes to the door and looks out the window a lot and I think she is looking for you. ____, you are a very intelligent, hard-working and kind person. Never lose those traits. Because of them I know you will go far in life. You have always done well in your profession, ____, and we have always been so proud of you! And never lose that deep love you have for animals. Goodness knows we need more people like that in the world. I wish you lots of luck and success in your future endeavors. And I will never ever forget you. You will always hold a special place in my heart!
____, I hope I have expressed my thoughts and feelings in this email to you. I have been so upset lately that my mind is a little muddled. I just wish all this never happened and that you two could indeed grow old together. You take good care of yourself. I do worry about you, too.
Love from Mom (Mrs. T.)
PS. You are always in my thoughts and prayers.
11/30:
Dear ____,
When I picked Nasmat up at the airport today, she seemed in a better frame of mind and more upbeat and hopeful. When I dropped her off at home I really was hopeful that things would work out and that you would move back home and you both would try hard to make it work. But my hopes were shattered when she called home crying and we both rushed over to see her. I have to admit that I was very angry but after I read your letter to Nasmat I now have a better understanding and now my heart is breaking for you both. ____, after reading your letter to Nasmat, I do understand this outcome more but at the same time I can't quite understand and accept why you would want to lose so much....a beautiful home and a wonderful wife. I told Nasmat and Dad that I don't think I ever have come across in my life someone who is so terribly confused, lost and troubled as you are. And that is a shock to me because I never saw that in you. I wish we saw that long ago because just maybe we could have helped you in some way. And now I worry about you even more and my heart aches so for you. I told Dad (Mr. T.) that if we saw this coming a while ago it might not be so traumatic but we never saw this coming and it has hit like a ton of bricks....literally!!!! I just wish all this would have come about before you got married but after 11 years of deep friendship and four good married years, this all is so much harder to bear. Today Nasmat was of the frame of mind that if love is still there then things can work out. This is what is so very tragic about the whole thing......the love, especially that Nasmat has, is so strong......that is what makes it so hard! Actually there is so much love still on all sides.....on your side of the family and then also on my side of the family.....Dad and I and also with my sister and mom. We all have always loved you both so much and always will. My heart just aches so for you, being so confused and troubled, and for Nasmat who has such deep love for you. Her heart is breaking and that heartache will be with her for a long time. And she will never ever lose that love for you.....even later in life. ____, as I have told you before, you have always been like a son to us and we have always loved you. And I feel like I am losing a loved one....like a loved one has died. Yes I am angry that this all has happened (never in my wildest dreams did I ever see anything like this happening with you two!) but at the same time my heart aches for you. I truly do think that if your mother was alive, things might be different in some ways. I truly wish your mother was here for you. I wish I could be a mother to you but I can't because no one ever could take your mother's place. But I do want you never to forget how much I love you and will never ever forget you! I've been praying to God to show us all the way because I really have not known what to do and I have just left everything in His hands to lead the way and let His will be done. I guess He is showing us the way even though it is not what I wanted. I do pray that God will help you find yourself and give you what you truly want in life. I wish that could have been with Nasmat but I have to accept that it is not meant to be.
____, my sister always does her Xmas shopping early and has sent gifts for you. I want you to please accept them and my sister wants you to please have them. I have left them at the house so please take them. Also, I wish you would keep at least one of those jack knives that were my father's (I think I gave you two). Actually, I wish you would keep even the big knife my mother gave you that was my dad's in the Navy. I know he would have wanted you to have it; he would have been so proud of you being in the Marines and would have wanted you to keep it. You decide; my mom and I would want you to have those but if you do not want to keep them then I wish you could at least keep one of the jack knives.
____, my heart is breaking so and it will for a long time. I love you and will think of you a lot in the years to come hoping that you will find yourself and find love and happiness again. But please, never forget that Nasmat truly loves you so and you will always be with her in thought and in her soul.
Please take care of yourself. If you could have that operation to correct your sleep apnea, I wish you would. That type of surgery is done all the time and will correct the problem. I just worry that if you don't have the operation then the sleep apnea will lead to heart problems or other medical problems. Take care and remember I will never forget you and will always love you and you'll always hold a special place in my heart despite all that has happened. I will try to keep in touch with your dad and sisters to see how you are doing and what you are doing. I will truly miss you!!
I will always hold you in my thoughts and prayers.
Love, Mom (Mrs. T.)
Yeah, so I could have killed my mother for sending these. She sent them without telling me, and you KNOW they did not help at all.
Of course, he never had the balls to email her back. What a coward he is.
