Hey Cerena.. wow, thank you so much for posting to me with such clarity! I just read that out to my Mum! You really helped me. Interesting you say...
"as long as you enable his vision that he can satisfy you with crumbs of attention, occasional "sweet" phonecalls, vague promises of talks and meetings, etc, he will not be motivated to change."
..so what would your advice be, NOT to be so available for these talks and meetings? He is now able to express that he misses me, has done the last twice I saw him, which is a major change to a year ago (when he justified ending it with, "but I didnt miss you" after we were S for a week!!).
You reminded me.. when I answered the phone, he said "Hi Al...hiya..." in THE sweetest voice, the old him, made my stomach flip.. same cheeky sweet voice as he checked I'd be home and told me about his parcel..a voice you use to your partner only, warm and fuzzy Kalni called it. I havent heard that voice since July and not even then even, maybe 18 months??? Thats why I thought they had split up.
I am not sure when all this started and how far along he is. Its been at least since May 2007, but he was very depressed from Oct 06 when we moved away, but then, his Dad went into the coma May 2005 and died end July 05...so he was bereaved from Aug 05, so....he's not been truly his old self since May 2005!
I notice you only have 6 posts and you are through your H's MLC now? So.. what changed for you then? What precipitated him saying he wanted to try again? And after how long? Thankyou Cyrena.
(PS: MrsM.. I was totally blown away by your developments!!! Will post to you later...)
