You are I are so much alike, and our sitches so similar, it is scary! It's so close that someone might actually get us mixed up!
Just a few things to say right now, cuz I'm kind of in a hurry, but I'll be back later, too.
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I really don't think he is thinking that clearly either I have a hard time not trying with every chance I get to prove him wrong.
Don't waste your time trying to "prove" anything to your H, or "reason" with him, or trying to "convince" him of anything. Not only does it not move your forward, it moves you backward. I know this from experience, you're just going to have to trust me. It just irratates the WAS to no end, so don't do it!
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But I am having a hard time getting how not talking, almost having to avoid completely in my circumstances, because I don't see him much and he doesn't live at home anymore, how that is going to help at all.
Try doing this, just as an experiment--challenge yourself to not call, text, or otherwise contact, for a week. I KNOW how hard this is, but if you can do this, and take it day by day, even minute by minute, you just might find that he starts calling you! Talk about a 180! What do you have to lose? Getting a "break" from you also means that you take away his "reasons" for constantly thinking that things won't change, because he doesn't have you constantly in his face doing the same things you always have! Plus, I think it would be good for you too. It would give you a much needed confidence boost, and a rest from the rollercoaster of emotions I know you are going through.
I hope that doesn't sound harsh, and I can only say this to you because I have been guilty of the same things, so don't think I mean this in a hurtful way (and I really hope you know that Sandi doesn't either). You can always go back to what you're doing now if it gets too uncomfortable and you think it's the best thing to do. Don't think of it as "forever". Maybe that will help you do it...
Well, Kristi, I hope you enjoy your first day of vacation!
