"I wish he had put his foot down" sounds like nonsense to me.
Nobody can force anybody else to face their responsibilities. It comes from within. Best anyone can do is show people.... - compassion for screw ups and mistakes - the right path - encouragement to do the right thing - understanding for ongoing escapades - a clear line on what is acceptable and what is not
I kind of think we don't think that much differently. Yes, you can't force someone to face their responsibilities and you have to make your own choices and all that. But in the past b/c I was scared, I would be wimpy and all that and put up with may too much crap b/c I was scared if I acted a certain way H would leave me. But the truth was even before he "left" he had kind of mentally check out of our M. So in retrospect if I had to do it over again I would do some things differently, try not to be so motivated by fear as I was early on. Of course, that doesn't excuse mistakes or poor choices my H made or anything. Karen
