Moving out this weekend. Please help!

[Hopeful Husband]

Hello all. It has been a few days. I've been busy Christmas shopping, getting ready to get out of town for the holidays, and taking care of some things. I got my wife a gift for Christmas. Is this not a good thing to do? I got her a Santa Claus ornament and a spa treatment (relaxing bath and massage). Every year we would get a new Santa Claus ornament for our Christmas tree. It was kind of a tradition in our house. I said in the card that it was "one last Santa" and hopefully the spa treatment would help her to relax. It was not much but I felt that I needed to get something.

This just in.... She just called me. She was telling me that she was working on getting the house put in her name. I left a message on her voicemail this morning asking her to call me back. We really need to sit down and talk about some bills and such. I tried to wait for her to contact me about this but time is getting tight. She said that I sounded too formal on the voicemail and I didn't need to tell her who I was because she knew my voice. She said that it hurt her feelings because she did not forget about me. I told her that I was concerned about the bills and that she was keeping me in the dark and I am not sure what she was planning. She said that she was not out to get me and cared about me alot. She said that she has been avoiding talking to me because she doesn't want to be nice and give me false hope. I told her that I was only formal on the voicemail because I am not sure how to act around her anymore. I told her that I didn't know her. I said that I still don't know what happened and said that someday I would really like to know the whole story. I don't think I will ever get it. She expressed being upset because I went behind her back and talked to her friends to figure out what I should do. I told her that I was sorry that she felt that that was being deceitful but I was doing everything I could at that time to try to save what was most important to me. She said that she knew but it still upset her. I noticed that I was talking about the relationship too much and quickly changed the subject. I told her to let me know when she wants to go over some things that we need to go over and I hope she has a great Christmas. I initiated ending the call. It was good to hear her voice. It was so nice to hear her say that she cares about me but I know that she still feels like we will not ever work out. She continues to press on with the divorce.

I had dinner with her parents this Saturday. They wanted to see me for the holidays before I left town. They have been very supportive during this whole thing. I think that it probably hurts the situation at times. Her dad spent the day with my wife earlier in the day. He said that they actually didn't argue and that my wife said that she cared about me. He asked why the marriage couldn't be saved. She told him that it was complicated. Like I said before, I think that there is someone else involved. Her mom is going to try to go with her next week to the neurologist to talk to him about the medication she is on. It seems to be really affecting her. She has changed alot since going on them and I don't think she is aware of any of these changes at all. I pray that she agrees to come off of it and maybe it helps her to realize whats going on. She is in a fog, whether it be a new relationship, the medication, or both. Something is not right with her and I am not the only one that notices it.

More to come.....need to do some work.