In retrospect i think that i wish he had put his foot down and told me to stop behaving the way i was - instead he was so afraid i would leave that he was more and more submissive and helping around the house and giving me all this space... when in fact i wanted him to set limits and force me to face up to my responsibilities. Mamanpc
I think this is excellent advice. In the past, I would often do things (or not do things) or make decisions motivated out of fear. I think that's a horrible way to live and I was getting more and more like that pre-bomb. That is one major change I've really tried to work on. If I'm scared of something, now I like to almost make myself do it, b/c I don't want to be motivated by fear anymore. It's important for healthy Rs, but healthy people too... karen
