How to know when to let go PT2????

[Amy M]

Kristi...stopping by with some hugs for you! ((((((Kristi))))))

You know, part of what helps with detachment is reading posts like Sandi's over and over and over. Then, one day, you'll just wake up and realize that Sandi's been right on a whole bunch of stuff! She posted all the same things to me. At the time, I didn't want to hear them. I pretended she just didn't know enough about my sitch or my H. Turns out, she knew a whole heck of a lot about a whole lot of stuff!

Over the weekend, my H, who didn't know where I was only that I was out of town "ignoring my real life" (that's what I told him). Sent a stupid text about how much he should pay his babysitter. I was irritated...I mean, he's a business man. When he hires someone to do a job, he knows that you work out the payment deal with the person you are hiring, not a 3rd party right? Then, I realized it was 9:30 his time on Friday night...the TM was likely his way of trying to figure out what I was doing. So, I just didn't respond. That felt good!!!!!!

You keep working on you and spending time doing what Kristi likes to do, and eventually, you'll realize you went all morning without even thinking about texting him. Now, I go most days without even thinking about contacting him.

You'll get there! And, it's a good place. Then, you can start to really DB!!!!

Love you much!
Amy