I want to thank you for the advice you posted. I do the things you have written and have some of if not all the ssame feelings. My hardest thing I am going through now, and it seems to making me frustrated and aggravated is the forgiveness part that I have to learn, now. I have to start forgiving , now. that is what He has told me, I cannot wait for her to mayb come back or when she comes back. If the forgiveness is not there, then why should she come back. this is a huge life lesson, for me and her. I know this. I understand allthe outside MLC world because I was there. I apologized to my kids for being an absent father. My drinking and partying weekends was all I lived for. to go out raise hell and everything else be damned. I am 48 years old acting like I was in high school. She was right along wioth me and she is still there. Did you find the waiting for them to come out frustrating and too slow in progress ? LOL....She has been in this for a little over two years by my recollection and my kids. It was two years ago they started saying that there mother was dressing like a teenager and spending too much time with make-up and alwways flirting....
All I did was drink more and get mad and upset with her. the worse I got, the worse she got. I am out of that loop. I no longer drink (occassional wine) I go out once a month with friends to party, dance and raise hell.
But I appreciate you sharing what your DP coach has told you, it is What AMy and Sandi have also told me. Are you vback with H? How long were you apart? what brought you back together? I am very interested...
