I agree--Sir, your kids need you now. It isn't about you needing them--and you do--but about them needing you and some balance in all of this. Your chances are far better than you realize, I'm sure. You don't have to attack her, you just need to actively defend yourself as a father. And you need to do it to protect them.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012