I was unfaithful

[mamanpc]

Mof3, your description of H reflects a bit how i was behaving when i was the WAS (in MLC too, very probably) - i wanted to be free of my responsibilities as a parent, i was 'tired' of being a mom, despite the fact that H helped me A LOT, it wasn't like i was the poor mom shouldering all the responsibility, quite hte oopposite in fact, H was helping out a lot, being the true 'new man', helping around the house, etc.

In retrospect i think that i wish he had put his foot down and told me to stop behaving the way i was - instead he was so afraid i would leave that he was more and more submissive and helping around the house and giving me all this space... when in fact i wanted him to set limits and force me to face up to my responsibilities. But neither he nor i were able to communicate how we were feeling, we were afraid of the consequences i think. And there they are anyway, what a shame that i (nor he) had the courage to speak up and say 'what's wrong wtih this picture?'
Bon courage M, we all need to spend a peaceful holiday surrounded by the people who are able to care about us at this time.
Mamanpc