For the Guy with Kids and a WW Twenty Two

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Just got a call from the wife's ex. Apparantly, they just spoke and it got to the point where he hung up on her. Now, those two will never have any kind of a R. Not without me in the middle. He tells me she called S14 on his phone and S14 asked her if he could just spend the night and that he was thinking of spending the week with his dad. She then went off that he was not going to do that, that he was going back to her apartment tonight. Then the ex got on the phone and she told him that S14 could be with him on Christmas Eve and back at the apartment on Christmas day. He could be with him on New Years if he wanted. The ex said that he was glad she was talking like that, because now he had witnesses to how she talks with S14 and his other older daughter there.

They were having some drama. I tell him that I haven't really spoken to her in about two weeks. That I had been trying still, like a stupid, but that I was pretty much done now. Told him how she wants the best of two worlds and that I'm not letting her anymore. He apologized to me for calling and told me that he wasn't sure how we were. He did thank me for letting him vent.

We talked about a few things. I did tell him that she is probably p*ssed about not getting any money from him. He understood and told me that he just started working again and that she is in for a big surprise about S14. Sounded like the ex is going to get his own apartment and he does plan to have S14 live with him still. He explained that he was stunned at how she was dictating to him. I asked when was the last time he talked to her.

He said maybe before school started. Yeah, real communicators, those two. I told him good luck, but I'm not involved anymore. I did ask what he was going to do. I also asked what he wanted as far as Christmas was concerned. He told me he wanted Christmas day. I told him I was getting the girls on Christmas eve, which is why she was telling him what she did. I also told him that I had asked S14 to ask him his plans for Christmas, so that I might get to see him too, but that I wanted him to make arrangements with his mom and dad first and if I could have a little time, then I was ok with that.

He thanked me for being a great dad for his son. That he tells everyone how lucky he was that I was S14's everyday dad. That he didn't mean to try to involve me tonight and that he explained to S14 that even though I was the third party, that I should get to spend some time with him, too. I asked him what he was going to do tonight about S14 and he said that he will take him home tonight after a movie was over. That he knew that she was going to get on S14's case about what happened tonight and that that wasn't fair. He said that he understood that I had enough crap on my plate without having deal with their crap and that I had two beautiful girls that I had to take care of.

He said that it sounded like he was going to be getting his attorney involved, because S14 was going to live with him, that he plans on getting child support from her, and that now SHE was going to only see him everyother weekend like he has for the last 14 years and that what goes around comes around. I told him good luck because he was right, I don't plan on getting involved anymore. He understood.

Sounds like things will be getting interesting soon on the other end.