My W was doing the same to me. Apologizing for everything happening so quickly, wanting everything her way, etc.
It didn't make things better or worse, but I told her to stop apologizing, if she was truly sorry, she would stop what she is doing... then I went on to educate her about the effects of divorce on children... which turned out to be a big waste of time... cuz "she'll make sure S turns out good."
I would wait a few days to respond. Then I would tell him you are too busy to plan anything right now. Or if you do agree to meet in January, come up with some excuse why you can't get done what he needs done. Just keep him waiting and on your terms.
