Thanks for stopping by. I'm not sure if I can go ahead with a friendship, mainly because there has been such a breech of trust in this whole thing. It might be easier to do so if she were to own her own issues in this more, but she really hasn't in any way. That is one piece that is at least somewhat positive in the midst of the awfulness of your sitch--your bf has frequently alluded to how messed up he feels, that he doesn't know what he is doing. Wish my W. could do the same, it would strangely be helpful to me!
I guess I am seeing where I am going with it all. I have not ruled out contact with her, we still have to have some communication re: selling of the house, but it is a push to remain open when my sense is that her contact is not for anything other than a distant and platonic caring. I will think about what you are raising, though.
The part that does tug at me is wondering if she is hurting or confused or lost in this too...but perhaps that is wishful thinking on my part. Her leaving just seems to be the ultimate statement of "I can do better"--especially that there was no opportunity for any change/connection/etc, much like you experienced things. And in reading on another thread how many MLCers are involved with an OP (during the relationship or shortly after leaving) that just got me depressed!
Trying to stay busy today with cleaning the house like mad! Might as well do some distraction that has some benefits.
