I didn't put any Christmas decorations out. I just couldn't do it this year.
At least your H sent you a friendly email.
I have no ideal why your H does not want to see any of those things in his house, that will have to be answered by someone with more knowledge about this than I.
I just wanted to check on you. I'm having those depressing days also. Wish we were close we could comfort each other!
I just think that your h wants a fresh start. Personal things are a reminder of good or bad times. Memores flood in that are constant reminders of oh I remember when we bought our furniture together etc.
When you start fresh, then those constant reminders are NO longer there. Just my thoughts.
You sound good. Try not to allow the holidays to get you down. This will be my 3rd year without h for Christmas if he doesn't show. I am praying that my h not get into depression this Christmas season.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Hi nlt and glamgirl, Thanks for checking in on me.
I guess the things remind H of the decisions he made. He told me about two years ago that he ruined his life. And getting his "love nest" was one of his worst decisions he ever made.
Anyway, I am not doing so well. I was not home for Christmas for the last two years, and this year all the memories come up again. So I find it quite hard to deal with it. At least I will have some company soon.
I will not post for some time as I need to get everything ready and attend to my guests. So I wish everybody a lovely Christmas and a better, happier and healthy New Year.
I would also like to thank you all for always being their for me when I needed you during yet another year. It means a lot to me that you are posting to me and supporting and comforting me.
I am glad you are having guests for the holidays. It will help you and I am sure you will have a nice time with them.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
True, Merry Christmas. I do hope that your visitors will help you through the holiday. Be kind to yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you for popping by. I am sure my visitors will help me. My sisters and I usually have a good time. One of them is arriving this evening. So I'd better continue with getting everything ready.
Thank you for your holiday wishes. I also wish you a merry Christmas and a very happy New Year.
Thank you again for always being there for me. I do appreciate it so much. Take care.
I had a lovely Christmas and a good time with my sisters. Unfortunately, we all got the flue on Boxing Day. It is taking us ages to recover. One of my sisters already left last Saturday and the other one went home yesterday afternoon.
I could not believe what my H wrote on 24th: he wrote that he is looking for love and a relationship, but with the women he gets to know he can only have fun. They want to be supported and don't want a relationship. He also wrote that he would be alone over Christmas which made him a bit sad.
He sent a second e-mail regarding the divorce, but I only opened it well after Christmas since I did not want to be upset. I was surprised to read that it was a friendly mail and he agreed to some divorce condition. At the end he wrote that he thanked me for all the years I loved him and that he has had no love ever since he left me!!!!!!
Is he finally waking up or is it the holidays that make him sad?? At least he finally sees that we had a good relationship. – I have not heard from him since, although I replied to the e-mail.
I am alone again and I am a bit depressed. The weather is very cold and gloomy which does not help.
I wish everybody all the best and happiness for 2009.
