We just went to see my mother and brother, to take them out to Sunday dinner, as well as swap Christmas gifts. Driving to the restauraunt there was even some handholding by W and I. (Don't know that this is a significant sign of anything) My mother noted my W isn't acting any differently than normal. In retrospect, I've been trying to figure out where I have contributed to this. I am doing the best I can to balance this. It's tough to be open and receptive but, avoid pressuring. I appreciate all your input, believe me, I'm listening to you all.