I am definitely here for the long haul and refuse to give up on my wife. I know that I still have work in proving myself trustworthy, but that's okay. She is worth the wait and this process is definitely making me a better person.
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Ultimately, this is an all or nothing thing for me. While I will have to always interact with my wife due to our daughter, I wouldn't want to be friends with my wife if there wasn't going to be any hope of reconciliation.
The former is what will bring you together. The latter...a defeatist, selfish,"I won't give her what she wants unless she gives me what I want" attitude. You ARE in this for the long haul and 99% of the time your attitude reflects it. Now, just work on the 1%! I am excited for what is happening in your family!!! LNMW, the hard work you are doing now will reap huge dividends for your whole family later!
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
L, You're going to have to be "just friends" before you can go further. If it follows the pattern that the DB C told me, you have to be friends, then you can introduce romance. Try not to let it get to you if she is saying those things. If you are consistent, you can build back her trust. But it will take time.
The hard part is going to be after she begins to respond to your romantically, because all the hurt and pain will then come out. If she shows interest, then you can consider counseling.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
