Hi SingleDad, I saw your post you sent to Tawnya over on her thread. I have glanced over your thread to get an idea of your stitch. Even though it is personal pain for you, it is very common amoung the others here on the DB board.
I was an almost WAW. I never left, but was very close. I am older and my children are grown, but if there is anything I can help you with as far as trying to give you any insight of how a WAW thinks or feels, I will do my best. Over the years, I have read a ton of book on how to improve MR, etc., and I have observed a lot of other couples in their own problems. I never thought it would happen to me. It has taken me a long time to find myself again, but with prayer, and trying to help myself, plus this board......I did find my way back. This board was the greatest thing in my life that kept me from walking away and kept me from ruining my life plus a lot of others along the way. So, I encourage you to stick with this board even when you are ready to give up.....that is when you really need to hang in here with us. There are a lot of very smart folks around here and sometimes it takes a while to find them or they find you, but just keep reaching out to others. I saw where you did do a lot of reading other posts before you decided to start your own thread. The more people you post to, the bigger your support group will be and right now that is what you need. Christmastime is a very difficult time to be going through this mess, but it is staggering to know just how many here on the board are facing that this year. So know that you are not along by a long shot. Not that that helps, but your problem is not "unique" in the sense that it is the only one like it, but it is for you b/c it is your personal problem and pain.
I will check in on you again, and like I said, if you have any questions or just want to vent, you are free to do that here. You little girl needs you so you must try to hang on and make a life for you and her even when you feel like there is not use. You will have days like that....and that is when you need to come here and just talk all your feelings out.
I hope we can get better aquainted. It is important to take care of yourself during all of this. You will discover that you have more strength than you realized.
Hope to hear from you. I am over in the Piecing forum, mostly to just have a home place for people to find me.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
