How are you? You said some very true and wise things in some prior posts (I can't figure out how to do the quote in my reply). We can't force them or love them or convince them enough to change--you are very right about that. I just recently came to that same conclusion. They have to do this and figure it out on their own. And yes, they do know we love them, but that doesn't matter because they do not really love us back (no matter what they say). They probably love themselves as much if not more than we love them. I say stick with the high road on the anger, but don't internalize it, find a healthy way to release it, but not on him. It won't make a difference and he'll probably feel good about the fact that he's made you feel this way. I've released anger on my W and all it did was make her get nastier, because remember, they are the ones who want out, not us, so they could care less how they hurt us. By the way, you mentioned introducing friends to Middle Eastern cuisine--are you Middle Eastern? My mom is from Lebanon and my dad is Palestinian, so I thought it was interesting to hear that from you. Well take care and write back. My sit has changed quite a bit, so if you have time drop in and read what's going on with me (I'm in the infidelity forum).
