I was unfaithful

[Sanderika]

M this describes many men who walk away and/or are suffering in a MLC. You actually have described my H very well.

I have friends who have been more supportive of son and I than H has been over the past ordeal. It was only recently that H has shown a caring side of himself towards us. I think it is happening in baby steps. I think it is because I do not treat H bad or in an outcast manner.

I also think that it scares the he*l out of H when he is nice to us and starts to show a softer side to me. It seems that he is still in a pattern where he is nice and then he bolts for 10-14 days +/-. I believe it is more of a MLC behavior rather than a normal WAS behavior.

I would like to tell you to give H time and space....I think you are giving up. If you decide that is right for you then that is what you should do. If you are truly ready then it is the right decision and you will heal from this fairly quickly. Keep in mind any negative actions and decisions H inflicts in regards to attention and courtesy towards you all will always hurt no matter where you are in your life. Please be prepared as that is very likely going to be the case. OR at least until H is ready to come out of this funk.

Please take care.....

Sanderika