This so much sounds like your H is in the middle of MLC. Have you read all the posts on that in the MLC forum? I love the stages info (is it 6 or 7 not sure)? I think if you really LRT and focus on yourself and the kids if your H ever gets out of MLC you could leave yourself open to reconciling in the future or not depending on where you are. But just living a really good life now, not waiting to see whether your H will emerge from the MLC fog or whatever... Karen
