I was unfaithful

[Sanderika]

M....

It will happen as you have described. Like here...People were polite at first and tolerated OW because they liked H. Now, no one around here wants to spend time with him especially if she is around and it is because she finally became comfortable enough and confident to let her true colors show. She has pretty much told everyone off in one manner or another and no one is willing to put up with it.

My son wants nothing to do with either of them. That is sad for H but H needs to wake up to that fact alone. I would run into severe resistance if I tried to explain what he has done to this boy over the past 40 months. I think H will be ready to hear it someday but by the time it happens is when it can't be fixed.

Let the control over H relationship between him and the kids be between them. They will figure it out and you won't be the bad guy.

In the beginning here....H wouldn't have any contact with me or son. He treated us like we didn't exist. After a very long time this has changed. H now likes us and is comfortable in our home. H isn't ready to leave OW though. He may never, I do not have the answer.

I am protecting my son by not letting him be around H if she is around. H has also never asked for son to meet her and it has been a very long time. I don't see H bringing it up now. OW has made very loud comment amongst friends to the fact. It is none of her business the way I see it. She has no rights to meet my kid. He is my kid. I will protect him at whatever cost.
If H wants her in his life it doesn't mean me and son want her in ours. We want zero contact and it won't change.

I have a huge passion on this subject.....

Sanderika