"My H told me there was no one else and he wasn't the "type" to have an A and like you, I believed him...but one month after our separation I found out there was an OW from his work. An ow/om serves as a bandaid to fix something, fill a void...in my case H's OW made him feel "young" and she was a party girl"
.. I concur. My ex was NOT the type to do this, he insisted constantly there was noone else.. that the woman he was phoning on his mobile when he went out walking alone, was nothing to him and he wast interested in her.. then the bomb.. then a year later, via severe depression.. he is now dating her. She is 9 years younger than me and apparently, downs pints (as does the girl OneDays's H is seeing). When he was still seeing me regularly, up to August, he apparently told his BMF that he didnt know what to do about me.. that he was scared.. that he thuoght he was getting old and was scared of dying. Cue.. new younger gf!
He wont refer to her by name and didnt tell me about her, but let his friends tell me. All he says is, he doesnt really know what he is doing and is "just going along with it"... in as much as they left for skiing today !
I have been on the boards all year and for much of that, I was about the ONLY person whose MLCer didnt have an OW and I felt that was odd, but then my ex had severe depression, so I thought that was why...turns out he did have an EA which has turned into new gf.
Al x
Didn't you know that they are all "just friends" LOL That is a classic line! That one and, "it doesn't mean anything" LOL These people are as predictable as the sun comming up. Best thing one can do when they start this stuff is to stay the hell away from them. I promise you, 99 times out of 100, when they start this stuff, they will drag you down with them if you get involved with the drama.
