Hope you are doing well, GAL and are busy with Xmas plans.
Just a note from someone who sat through disastrous marriage counseling - *(I'm sure you already know it though) *(marriage counseling from my experience is one of the worst things you can do if the R is already under stress). Your spouse will feel trapped and like you want them to change their point of view. And that only makes them dig their heels in further.
I hate the plan of you bringing up the lack of physical touch (you are telling her she is wrong and she needs to change) and I hate the plan that you are going to move the talk onto 'bigger issues'. Maybe you should address W's issues and treat them as equally big as your own?
Sounds like you are out to prove that you are RIGHT that the R is a disaster and your W is not a good W. And you are going to use the counselor as the judge - you've got all the evidence against W already prepared. Sounds like you are hoping counselor will tell W she is wrong and she needs to change.
Sorry Jeff I could be totally wrong - partly I recognise myself in what you are doing (sorry if I'm just transferring my own crap onto yours). Your C thought it was a good idea - so what would I know?!? Just I've been there, done that, got the opposite result to what I wanted.
Really hope that your R wont go down the track of mine.... better to GAL I say!
