John - I was thinking of you tonight as G40 and I watched Roberto Benigni's "Life is Beautiful" (I saw it when it first came out in the theaters). She thought it was the best movie we have watched together. I have now put a couple other great Italian language films at the top of my list (Cinema Paradiso and The Bicycle Thief).
Dont fret the coach keeping you out of the game. It is so much more important to connect on a personal level before jumping stages. One book you might want to consider checking out from the library is "Venus and Mars on a Date". Basically, there are 5 stages we need to go through during dating to help make the best long lasting relationship.