GG: You ARE NOT a failure. Not everyone can live up to being a perfectionist. God did not create us to be perfect because he knows we cannot be. You are doing a remarkable job. I know you want your husband home but right now, it is maybe meant that he not come home because you would be on your feet all the time trying to be perfect as this is what your husband wants. Again, something to think about at a C session. You are doing great, okay?
PH: You have some bad weather out there!! Are the boys in town yet?
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
GG, You are doing great. Keep thinking of the overall progress, and remember this is just another bump on the road.
MWG, Yes, it snowed all day yesterday and it took at least an hour to shovel the driveway - 8-10 inches plus the village snow plow managed to dump lots of snow at the end of my driveway. BTW, the neighbor came over to offer to plow my driveway and I turned him down. Didn't want to feel obliged for any favors especially since his inappropriate words a few months ago.
Now the driveway has got another 3-4 inches of snow. I am waiting till morning to shovel.
Oh, I assume the boys arrive on Christmas Eve. That's what happened the last 2 years. I need to call them tomorrow to catch up. Haven't had a chance these past 2 weeks.
PH: You need a big break from work--a vacation is more like it.
Too bad it had to be that person offering to clear the snow for you otherwise it would have been nice to have somebody do that for you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I had a really nice Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Went to Christmas Eve service and to a lady friend's after that. A girlfriend invited me to her Christmas party which turned out to be a lot of fun. Everyone was nice and friendly.
While at the party, stepson texted "Merry Christmas" and asked what I did that day. I texted back to him with a "Merry Christmas greeting to you, brother and Dad". Told him I was at a party. I am not sure if he passed on my greeting to his brother or my H.
I thought it was very sweet of him to send me that message.
Today, I met up with another lady friend for lunch. It was alot of fun catching up.
This past week, it seems that so many "angels" (in the form of friends, stepson, etc.) have been coming my way. God is good.
I am so glad you had such wonderful people that you were able to be with and enjoy each other's company. Makes a big difference.
Any word on when you will see the boys?
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Yes, it makes a huge difference when you are able to spend time with wonderful people.
I haven't heard anything about when we're getting together. I trust that he will figure out the best time for the get-together.
Something funny - I had wrapped up everyone's presents and placed them under the tree. I also wrapped the dog's presents and placed them under the tree so she would have fun opening her presents and not feel left out when the boys open theirs.
Of course, she was watching me wrap them all up, especially her presents. She sat watching intently the WHOLE time.
Anyway, yesterday, I thought I heard something squeak, and when I looked around the tree later, I saw that the dog gate around the tree had moved some! I think she tried to move the dog gate (which must have made the squeaking sound).
She really is a smart dog!!! She wants her Christmas presents... now.
So I ended up blocking off the living room so she wouldn't get to the tree at all.
GG, I was reading today's Charlyne Cares and she was saying that some standers have a spouse who is living with anger and bitterness of unforgiveness of past hurts or wounding who usually confesses to being a Christian, but is choosing divorce instead of marriage restoration. She also said that these spouses are spiritually blinded and deceived by the enemy.
I was encouraged by a song we sang at Church today: "No power in hell No scheme of man Can ever pluck me from the hand of the Savior..."
