From what I've read (and I've read a LOT about MLC), and OP doesn't have to be part of it, but it's been my experience that there pretty much always is an OP in some form.
My H and I had only ever been with each other. Never even dated anybody else. Both of us pretty shy introverts. I believed H up until my S17 told me the truth (which H had given to him in a drunken confession).
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd