Have never posted to you but -- let her spend time with her mom. 13 is a very treacherous age. Unless of course mom's not a very good role model - is there an OM? Sorry I'm not familiar with your sitch.
Also, what book is Jeff223 talking about? I could use some advice on dealing with hurt and use of aggressiveness also.
Stay strong.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10