Hello weit,

You have made some very wise statements. We have similar stories in that my H also thinks he has found what he calls his "mirror image". Well, that could be a good thing or a particularly bad thing (!).

I agree that, sadly, my H also can't "move forward without getting this woman out of his system or into his life".

I wish I had some good news to report to you but I'm afraid if it is MLC, it's going to take TIME. Just don't let him walk all over you.

You say that the OW seems nice (can't remember your exact words) but I bet if you dig a little deeper you'll find that she's not all that. First warning sign - she's seeing a MARRIED man.

Read my thread if you have a chance. I've been inconsistent, but am starting to update as my H has recently sent me an email after 3 months of silence.

I'll be in touch.

Stay strong!


Me 56
H 47
Married 21 years
No children
Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself".
Ow Bomb 8/07
H filed 6/08
D final 2/05/10