Yes, proactive is good! I still can't believe this has happened to me either but I'm no longer frozen.
I think if you're still not sure whether to expose or not just stay quiet for awhile longer - your H is probably worried sick over what you'll do - he just won't admit it.
My H finally poked his head out and emailed me Wed. I'm back on my thread now trying to sort things out. Stop by if you get a chance.
Stay strong!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
