I don't have much to say about my sitch, only that W is still distant and angry. It has been 10 months since the bomb. I feel great, with the exception that my family is ripped in two. Final orders are in less than a month. It will be nice when the dust settles....
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I feel anxious today. I have started the longest stretch away from kids. Next time I see them will be Dec 24th. I will be GAL, wrapping X-mas presents and focusing on making the rental more a home.
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You're an incredible guy. Good job on making creating a home for the kids.. are you having a female friend help you?
They say that children model after their parents.. if you are calm and moving forward, then the kids are too.
Something very strange happened tonight.. perhaps disturbing. While hanging up Christmas ornaments my daughter saw the one we got before she was born that had the names of spouse, me and the two boys. She looked at it and said, "I was always sad I wasn't on this ornament. We can take off Dad's name and put mine there."
Oops.. that was off topic. Keep up that energy and smile.
Thank you for being willing to go places most people wont. You are a very brave special person. Thank you for helping me to heal the scariest places.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
(((R2C)))I just wanted to stop by and say Happy Christmas. I know things aren't perfect (or not the way you would like) but you are doing a marvellous job imo!
I have accepted the fact that my family now lives in two houses. I can stand up to W and say what I believe without fear. I know what I need/want out of a relationship, and have accepted that my W is not able/willing to do what it takes to make a marriage work. I know there is a woman out there that is....It will be a huge stress relief when the final orders are over on Jan 8th. I will be able to focus my energy back toward the kids and away from the legal issues.
Thanks for all your support!
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