Another wife Hit by the Bomb #6

[SingleDad]

Tawnya - I am amazed at how well you are doing with your bomb only 2 1/2 months ago.... and the OW on vacation together.

My bomb was nearly 1 year ago - legal separation 6 months ago - and 6 months before W can file the divorce. I learned about BF about 2 months ago... and I just keep thinking about her getting the new BF to start a new family and replace me as "daddy" to our 3 yo daughter. I can't get over that.

How do people get over it so quickly and move on with their lives ? As just a fact of life...Sh-t happens.

I keep living in "Limboland" and fighting to save my marriage against my W's wishes for me to "respect her privacy" and her affair.

I see you fighting back against H's OW - but also accepting the situation as something you can't fight.

I can't live with myself if I had just sat back and not fight to save my marriage... But I have been doing the same "cheeseless tunnels" for 11 months now - bouncing between DBing and GAL and then set-backs where I fight for my marriage.

Now learning that there is no hope as long as the BF is in the picture... even if the affair was over my chances are bleak.

But I continue to feel that our marriage should be given a second chance - at least spend some parenting time together - just to see if things can work out slowly.