Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[Trixi]

Awesome Awesome posts Nik.
And quite spot on.
I did say to SS when he said the thing about how the RM "changed Dad" that "Dad can make his own choices". SS came back with "Of course he can. But having someone like that live in the same house is going to have a negative influence."

The other day, SS actually told H that he was acting like an addict w/regard to the pot. H had told SS that he would be doing XYZ with SS the following day, and when the following day came, all H did was smoke pot and jam w/RM. SS was very hurt and also felt disrespected. When he said something about it, H said "well, but I was jamming, so...."

Yes, I agree that the RM/music is totally like an OW. Thanks for the validation. It's like I know *something* is not right, but it's hard to articulate it; or at the very least, I feel "silly/wrong" for being 'jealous'.

Supposedly, (and this sounds so crazy I am not sure if I believe it) SS was telling RM (with H in the room) that I will be doing an at home drug test on him, so it's critical that he not be around the pot and that it sure would be nice if RM would do it outside or in the garage--not in the living area-- and RM said "Can't you convince Trixi not to give you the test? Just have your dad or me vouche for you." OMFG! Supposedly, H stepped in and said 'no, that's not right' and then said to SS, 'maybe you should just stay out of the studio'. *SIGH*

Your H is treating you poorly, using you when he needs you and ignoring you the rest of the time. He's living it up in his new "rockstar" lifestyle, spending all his time and I would imagine much of his emotional energy (via the music) with this friend. He's getting to cake-eat big time because you're right there for him every time he decides to throw you some scraps, and you'll even sleep with him if he tries just enough. But he still gets to parrrtayyy at home in his new fun fun fun life. Sounds at all like the "honeymoon phase" of a new R to you? The DUI's messing that up a little bit... but even then he has you to help with the "tough stuff" with SS, and even drive him around (and yippee, now you're driving "OW" around too!).

So true!! The good news is that I only had to deal with RM one time; now RM is using H's truck to drive them around.

Your story about driving the three of you to the party. OMG that would PISS me off! I can totally feel how it must have felt for you. Probably especially because at dinner that night when the RM said Halloween thing, I felt like getting up and leaving. But no, I'm a wimp. Don't want to make waves.

Blah!

I want to say more, but I need to get out to the store before the next big storm shows up tonight.

I keep checking for you over in piecing to see if you have figured out your mutual goal; guess I'll wait til after the new year.