JonF - What a rollercoaster ride, huh. There are so many similarities among the WAW its scary. Except my W left and has never wanted to come back - but she does call me most days to discuss our daughter.
Learned she is having an affair which I thought was over... but its back on.
I know I will never have a chance to starting over as long as she has an OM.
What you are calling Dissolution I call mediation... both spouses meet with a mediator to agree on terms - final document then is reviewed by both sides attorneys - saves a lot of money when attorney's aren't using legal means to get both spouses to fight with each other and rack up the legal bills.
I am also of the view that you need to fight for what is right, and not just bow down to what the WAS wants, expecially while they are having an affair. It will help you sleep at night and for years to come.
As far as the mediation - be sure to fight for Joint legal and physical custody with as close to 50/50 parenting time as possible - do not limit yourself to becoming a McDonald's dad with weekday evenings - get the overnights we well.
Good luck to you.
Me:40 / W:33 / D:3 T:7.5/M:4 D Day: 1/24/08 Legal Separated: 6/12/08 BF who sleeps over: confirmed 11/10/08 Suspect BF pre-dates D Day
