Thank you so much for your kind words and your insight. One thing he said that bothered me was that he likes living alone. But, just like you said with the divorce, I can see that as an MLC/WAS outloud thought. I simply responded that I can understand why he might like that and that it is fine with me.
I am feeling bad that so many of my friends here are hoping for any positive sign. I hope for the best outcome for all of us. I will say that today's events, whatever they mean, certainly show that anything can happen to any one of us at any time.
Just a little over one week ago I was wondering how to keep going with this and now I have some new positive steps.
I need to write down your words: whenever we act defensive, the other person feels unheard. Looking back this has been key in my and H's interactions.
