Check out the stories on the MLC board. Find one where there is not some type of physical or emotional affair going on prior to the marital crisis.
I don't think an affair is required to classify a spouses mess as an MLC.
I think we spend WAY too much time trying to decide whether or not our spouse is HAVING an MLC or not.
Who really cares what you call it? Walk away spouse or mid-life crisis.
I just choose to call it "A-spouse-who-has-become-almost-the-antithesis-of-the-person-you-have-known-for-XX-years" disease.
Hallmarks are summed up with "Acts basically like a self-indulgent, beligerant teenager and can't understand why everyone is unhappy about it."
Focusing on MLC or WAS just saps your energy. At best it's an amusing intellectual discussion. At worst it provides some sick type of false sense of security that keeps you from doing what you really NEED to be doing...
Work on YOURSELF.
Take care of your children.
Work on YOURSELF some more.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
