I agree GG - she needs to be on her own. I don't know if she will have regrets, but she needs to be independent now. it will be good for me, and good for her, too.
The attack on my character is strange, but I try to not be hurt by it. There is a lot of "water under the bridge" so to speak, so this is nothing new to me.
The problem is if the attack succeeds, I stand to lose my children. Which is a very sad but very real prospect for me.
The burden of proof in family court is much lower than criminal court, but yet for me, the impact can be life-changing.
Wow Sir that sounds awful. I couldn't imagine how you are feeling inside. I imagine at some point, you scratch your head and think how did we ever get to this point.
I do realize though without God in your life you become such a worldly person. Meaning that you end up having no compassion for another and it's all about personal gain.
I will pray for you and your family. Hopefully it will turn out in your favor. It amazes me that your w would even think a life without your kids would be alright. See how life is so off kilter.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Sir--I don't know how it is in your state, but I can't imagine it would be drastically different--it takes a lot of major problems for the court to take your children away. And a whole lot more evidence than just hearsay. And that's all she's got. I can't imagine that expert testimony--and that's what it takes--would go against you no matter what she says. She may not be aware of all of that. At the very most--and I can't even see this happening--there would be supervised visits for awhile.
I know how you feel about fighting all this, but I do hope you'll reconsider defending yourself when it comes to your kids.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
S, it makes me sad to think of the possibility of you losing your children. In a world where so many fathers walk away, it is not right.
I cannot believe that the courts will not see how wrong it is. Have faith that they will. This is one fight you must pursue. You have no choice. This is where you must put your efforts right now. Worry not about wife and where she is on her journey.
Keep thinking positive thoughts, keep praying and loving those kids.
You are in my prayers always, my friend. It will work out, it has to.
Staying warm, yessiree. keeping my head low. I like the snow. Kindof a bummer that I am not out making snomen with my kids. But, eh... it won't last forever.
BM - on the courts - I am sanguine about my chances. Regardless what happens, they won't be small forever, and they will come to me. eventually. it is a d4mn shame that I am ejected from their lives this young, but I will be here when they can vote with their feet.
S, dont give up hope. Dont. Dont accept what she is doing regarding the kids. Dig in and fight with everything you've got. They need you NOW. Grrr, she is really getting me angry. How dare she do this?
For my son's sake, I am not telling him about his father. The lies, the cheating, the money. I want him to have a relationship with his dad so I will not tell him. Not easy, but you must always put the children first. That is what a real mother would do. Your w is being selfish and vindictive. Not right at all.
I agree--Sir, your kids need you now. It isn't about you needing them--and you do--but about them needing you and some balance in all of this. Your chances are far better than you realize, I'm sure. You don't have to attack her, you just need to actively defend yourself as a father. And you need to do it to protect them.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
