Thanks for this perspective guys...

the OM is a newish OM - since July time this year...the original OM is gone - divorced and in a new relationship.

Although I know any chance of reconciliation is a long way down the line - if ever - i am not particularly desperate to jump into a new R as a straightforward alternative...I have plenty on my plate at the moment before I can get into a serious R with another woman...although I am open to the idea of seeing other people - in fact had lunch today with MA32 - (Management Accountant age 32) someone I know through work...In fact quite a day all round - done some house stuff, been for a run, been for long lunch and shortly off to collect H.

Folks I am still very much a work in progress and I am aware of the dangers of deluding oneself.

I really appreciate the input above...

KBO - GFI


Me: 40ish
W: 40ish
Together: 20 ish years
Married: 10ish Years