Remember how you said that you work things in 'circles'.. something like that.. how issues come up as a circle and you resolve them?
Are you in one of those that's become a loop?.. dang.. what WAS your circle thing???
This all sounds like you're looking at noose for your neck.
Choices.. perceptions... Maria...
If your attitude is tepid, the results will be the same.
If his actions increase your sense of insecurity, your relationship will be the same.
It's not about you leading HIM where he needs to go..
It's you putting yourself where YOU want to be (in the type of marriage you're seeking, in what you expect of yourself, of your husband, in what you need). That to me is the 'work'. YOU have to risk putting it all out there.. not in a "I'm becoming a doormat and living the same life I had in the past but will be more miserable now because I'll know I am settling" way.
You are Maria..
You are incredible.
And now I'm going to shut up because I don't know how you put all the pieces back together again.
