Making my own good karma!!

[Silent Chrleader]

I ran into an old family friend this evening. As soon as I saw him, I started crying! [So embarassing!]. He was shocked to hear about H and my sitch. Made me promise to keep my head up and not lose heart because he thinks H will "come around" and is just currently thinking with "the wrong head".

I am just feeling so very hopeless and sad right now. Does anyone see any hope in my sitch? H is supposed to be coming over tomorrow to work on the house (weather permitting which if very iffy). If he does come, I don't know if I should help with the work and PMA and "be the greener grass", or if I should be scarce and leave him to it. I'm thinking I will be positive and offer help if he needs it, but then unless he states otherwise, leave him to it and be busy doing other things.

S17 doesn't want H to come because he doesn't want to help H. He is still very angry at H since the falling out they had because H slept with OW. (H had been being "best buds" with S17 and allowing him to drink and smoke, but then told H told "his secret" to S17 in a drunken confession and then S17 had to carry that secret for months until he finally told). S17 has not been doing well in school this year (not hard to understand why). H still thinks S17 needs to be "yanked up by his boot straps" and "worked" to "earn his keep". I understand this feeling, but am not sure tough love is the way to go. But, I don't want to gainsay H to S17, because it's important I think to maintain a united front as parents......??

I just really need to find some PMA somewhere! Anybody know where I can find some, cheap??