I don't have any good advice for you. I have only been going through my sitch for 9 months now, and I don't feel I'm doing very well at all. When I see stong women like you who choose the difficult path of unconditional love and give of themselves for years like you have, it humbles me. It makes me feel so inadequate. But it also inspires me!
Anyway, I just wanted to say that you are a remarkable lady and you deserve to be happy. Only you can say when enough is enough and I don't think anyone could fault you for it if you did that. But, having said that, it seems to me that there is good reason for hope in your sitch. The fact that your H spends time with you and wants to go to social occaisions as a couple, and kisses you goodbye! I envy you that!
Right now, I don't ever see my H getting back to that point, much less reconciliation.
So, hang in there! And I hope you make many warm memories this Holiday Season.
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
