Sweetie, detaching has nothing to do with money or bank accounts or whatever. It's your heart you have to detach with. Let him go. Realize that you are better without him. That he can't hurt you if you don't let him. Let go of the anger and the pain.
BBJ, he is the father of your kids, but he isn't a nice guy. He has treated you like crap. Lied to you. Put your health in danger. Let him go. You have so much going for you. You can do so much better.
Try this (it worked for me really well): Make a list of the good things this allows you to do. My list had stupid things like throwing away those d*mn little pillows on my bed. Losing the floral sheets. Eating out where I wanted. Etc, etc, etc.
