Your D9 will be one happy girl. And so will D6 if you make it special.
As for outings with your H, only you know your comfort level - you say you don't want to - there in lies a clue. But you are wise to always do what is best for the kids. There should not be any misconception about where it is going, though. How does your H feel?
I do NOT have any outings with my ex. But our split was VERY nasty and I don't have much communication of any type with him anymore. As well, our kids are older, so that's different.
My d9 had a good time camping but seems a little jealous about d6 spending time with her dad. Today is back to school for them. I don't start until Thursday.
Yesterday I phoned h in the morning to remind him to bring me my cheque. I asked him a couple of other questions. He answered in one word answers. I just shook my head. I mean really, I am sure ow was in the room. Either she has a problem with h talking to me or he just can't handle it. So strange. We are going to have to talk once in awhile about our children and other issues.
So I sent him an email. I said obviously you were unable to talk this morning. Since I can't call your house check your emails daily as we have to communicate somehow.
Anyway just a little vent. I am feeling the need to be rid of him although I know while my children are young that is impossible. So I hope the townhouse sells soon.
Mermaid, You sound wonderful. I'm glad the girls had a good time, but the sibling issue of each of them wanting their father's attention is very normal.
I'm glad you set your h straight. He needs to understand that there has to be communication between the two of you because of those little girls. As for the ow, she better get use to this deal for it's actually for a life time, whether they want to believe that or not.
Good for you in telling him to check his emails! You sound very strong and self-sufficient these days. Go girl!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm glad to hear you sounding strong and confident. I do think you will rest easier once you have no real ties except the girls. I feel less stress now that the children are the only thing we have to discuss.
Also, I don't know how reliable your H is, but I've found it best to do everything via email or XH will renege on promises re. the kids. Sad, but that's the way he is.
Sending you love, Nicola
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It is nice to hear from you both. H is finally reading emails. I did phone him at home once though and got his voice mail with a new message. This time it also included ow's name along with my ds and his cat. It really threw me because he just added her name. I think then my suspicions were right that he was is going to buy a a place with ow when ours sells. It still hurt sometimes.
Our place did sell. I am relieved. We owe property taxes on it or should I say h does. Only he does not see it as his responsibility solely. I paid the maintenance fee and he paid the mortgage. He got the rent cheque to cover the mortgage plus more which more than covered the property taxes which he never paid. I was out of pocket for the maintenance fee. But he is upset because it is one big amount instead of paying it when it was due. So I sent him an email with all of information spelled out. I hope he gets it.
Well I a drowning in homework. I need to not only get caught up but get ahead or I will not have peace.
That is all. I am working this weekend. No rest for the wicked. My ds are with h.
hi again Just an update. I think I am officially d. As usual h has no sensitivity when it comes the anything especially me. He called me and said can you come I am at the office. I said no I have to go to work. But stupid me I went an signed papers when I had to go to work. I sent him a ripping email about how selfish he is. I know it does no good but I felt better.
H keeps giving me more papers to sign so I guess the d cannot be done yet. I was thinking how he dragged out our m because according to him he made a mistake, then he dragged out our separation and now he is dragging out our d. He called me when I was at school. I did not answer so he left a vm. I did not return his call. He called again. I said I am going to write a final exam in half an hour so no I will not be there to sign d papers. He seems to be in such a hurry all of a sudden.
Well I just wanted to update my status. I hope all of you are doing what you can do cope and move past all of this. Sometimes I do wish it hadn't taken so long with me. I still hurt over small things I wish I did not. I do know somethings will always hurt.
I am not sure if I can ever except the ow.
Well that is all. If I don't get back on here. I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas and a very happy and prosperous New Year.
Mermaid, Sign the papers when you are ready and have the time available to do so. Do not jump when he snaps his fingers. The man could schedule a time to meet with you and not have you come to his office. I'm very sorry everything turned out this way. Yes, they do tend to drag everything out and then when the notion strikes them, they want it done instantly.
I do hope that you and your children have a beautiful and happy Christmas. May the new year be a brighter and better one for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
