Thanks John. I know I need to detach. And being the voice of truth is not being a bad guy, either...
It is just so freakin' hard to detach when he is always around, we haven't told the kids, all our finances are together, yada yada yada
I was thinking as I was chopping the ice off my car today (a good 3/4" all over the entire thing!!), you know, a year ago, I was thinking "Next Christmas we will either be divorced and I will have had some time to start my new life, or we will be together and things will be good b/c we decided to work on our marriage and commit to being together".
Well, it is next Christmas and we are exactly where we were last Christmas, with him planning to move out (anybody remember that, he got a lease on an apartment paid the deposit ordered the furniture but never moved in), us not telling the kids till after Christmas, etc etc
