So what if it doesn't work to get her back? Nothing else has and you've been miserable. If you're going to be without her AND happy again, at least you'd have that much more of your life in control that much sooner, and the eventual happiness you WILL create, will come that much sooner.
That's what everyone has said and I'm angry enough today to where I'm seriously motivated to go forward and not look back.
As far as 'waiting for her', I'm going to see what paperwork she has had drawn up and then go to a lawyer and ask how I should proceed. Between friends I have on the board, and my counselor who has given me tons of warnings as she has walked many of her clients through divorces, I'm sure I will come out of this in good shape.
I'm not a martyr. I've been one for the past year or so. Not any more.
