That is the whole point. The reason he won't tell anyone that he wants to divorce me is b/c he wants to get the mortgage first. To me, that is totally disrespectful and using me for his benefit. If he wants the divorce, he should have filed and then figured out housing. If he didn't qualify for a mortgage at that point, then I guess that is a consequence of his actions, isn't it?
I just get really annoyed that he is able to plan his entire escape at his leisure. Why SHOULDN'T he struggle to get a loan? The only good reason is so I know my kids have someplace to live when they aren't with me, other than on Tom's floor...
