I keep thinking about this crap. You know, I can't help but notice a pattern in our interactions.
1. I avoid contact.
2. He tries to initiate contact about finances or other practical details - often in a rush.
3. I respond with friendly detachment.
4. He is friendly but nervous. He tries to settle into our friends vibe by apologizing and being the "nice guy."
5. I remain distant.
6. He becomes "all business". Tries to rush things along.
7. I remain friendly but distant.
8. He backs down and becomes "Mr. Nice Guy" again.
I feel like I'm in a cheeseless tunnel right now. I seriously have no clue how to break this flipping cycle. If I try to be a "friend", this is what I get.
1. I act as a friend.
2. He responds in a friendly way but reiterates his position.
3. I validate.
4. He gets comfortable, and then does a 180, bringing up those practical details again. He reiterates his desire to D.
This is seriously a no-win situation for me. About the only thing I haven't tried is outright anger, rage, and vindictiveness. I've been business-like and detached. I've been vulnerable and emotional. I've been sympathetic and a friend. I've been friendly but detached.
Seriously, perhaps this is all just doomed.
I know, I need to give it time. Just venting, I suppose.
You know, I can't help but notice a pattern in our interactions.