My post a few days ago was focused on staying in the 'now'.. not the past, not the future. Just one step at a time.
Making a list might help... everything that is good about staying together, everything that is lacking. Maybe both of you make individual lists. A third column could be.. how to resolve it... something you work on individually.. and/or eventually together. Brainstorm.
This is a time for transparency.. on both sides. Being open about everything. Agree that in the past things broke because the communication failed. Hence.. the new aspect is to be straightforward, without fear of put down, rejection.. just put it out there. It's very scary because one or both expect rejection or finger pointing. If you trust in your agreement to be open then you'll be amazed at what you can say, what you can share.
Only by side stepping your walls and defenses can you truly find whether or not this reconciliation will work.
Talk about things even if you're afraid you'll look bad. Make a commitment to try. If it works, the trust is rebuilt. If not, then you'll have your answer.
